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Pride
Pride nearly destroyed my marriage. I have been married for 7 years. Most of these years have been wonderful- full of love, adventure, and changes. However, I feel lucky to have survived the first two years. I blame a lot of this on my own pride. I was terrible at taking any sort of accountability in any argument or say sorry for mistakes I had made. It was very hard for me to ever admit I was in the wrong. This caused small problems to escalate into big ones, creating deep resentment and discord between my husband. There were a few time when I thought this would never be able to be repaired. Fortunately, my husband is a loving, forgiving, and understanding person and he believed that our marriage was strong enough to withstand some of these issues. Thankfully he was right! It took a lot of work, but I was able to make the necessary changes to be sure that my pride doesn't get in the way of the important relationships in my life.
Pride has a history of causing problems, and it continues to cause problems today. It's the reason why relationships. I can see how pride affects the people in my life. I see pride often in my parent's relationship and I notice the divide it creates between them. It also has a way of working it's way into the people around them, as well. Pride is a virus. It's far reaching and it affects a lot of people. And then thing about pride is that it's a choice. We choose to have pride. This must mean that we can also choose to not be prideful. It's worth trying in order to see the changes it will make in our relationships and and in our life in general!

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